Thursday, October 28, 2010

Still here...

and still dealing with sleeping issues. Sorry I've been such a bad blogger.  October is my busiest photography month and this blog is getting the raw end of the deal!  

But just in case you were all wondering.. yes, we are still having sleeping issues with Adie.  I got a TON of feedback on Facebook which I appreciated so much!  We tried putting her mattress up into her loft as you saw in the last post.  It worked for one night. One night she stayed in her bed all night long.  All the other nights?  Yep.. nakid on the couch.  Or not nakid sleeping in the hallway...

Why ever would sleeping sitting up wedged between the door frame and the drawers be more comfy than her bed?

And this picture cracks me up.. doesn't she look like she has only one tooth?
Gotta keep the humor up with this season in our lives! 

The only thing we haven't tried is to lock her door to her room.  Which I'm super hesitant about because she gets up every night and takes herself to the bathroom.  I don't want to clean up urine on the carpet cuz we locked her in her room.  Ah.. mom always said, "This too shall pass."  Man, I wish she was here to give me some more advice!  Or at least laugh along with me with her nakid granddaughter's sleeping issues!

16 comments:

Ellemieke said...

Don't lock her in her room, that will only make her scared (and than you don't have to clean up every morning...). It will really really pass, it's just a period. Have you tried putting her back in her bed immediately? First say nicely to her that she has to go back to bed and you tuck her in. If she comes out the second time you only say you have to go back to bed (say it a little less nice). The third time you say nothing, you just put her back to her bed. It took us 2 weeks, you have to be strong and persistant (it is hard), but it really works!
Hang in there!

darcy said...

Yeah.. I freak out about fires too so we're not gunna shut her in her room. This has just been going on since SPRING BREAK of last year! April! We really worked hard on it this summer and had a few weeks where she stayed in her bed. Then she relapsed when daddy went back to school. =/

Shannon said...

We did do the lock thing on G's door at this age, b/c it was the only way to keep him in bed. But this stage will pass :)

I don't think I have ever seen Adie's hair down like that! Super cute!

Anonymous said...

please don't lock her in her room. is her roaming sleeping really hurting anyone? pick your battles....

Brooke Schwartz said...
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Anonymous said...

wow "anonymous", who do you think you are? it's obviously dangerous for a pre-schooler to be walking around the house, unattended, at night, when it's dark. Who knows what she could do? I'm in college and I haven't even started to think about having kids- but reading this kind of thing makes me wonder about how my own kids will be. This is obviously a battle, it's been going on for over a year! Darin and Darcy are AMAZING parents! I've been around their daughters a lot, so I know this for a fact! They know what their doing- "picking their battles", if you will. Darcy, I completely agree with you on this issue! And I hope that you guys can figure out a way to keep Adie in bed :)by the way, this is BROOKE SCHWARTZ, for anyone who wanted to know.

darcy said...

Oh Brooke.. we love you! Make me giggle, girl!

Anywho, I've had some anonymous comments in the past and didn't respond.. this time I will. The concern is not that she's roaming our house at night.. the concern is that we are telling her to stay in her bed and she is choosing to disobey us. I know I've kept it light in my blog posts but we are just trying to get to the heart of the problem! Thanks for the input, tho! Just wanted to give ya a little more info on the situation. =)

Anonymous said...

here's the thing.... i in no way am judging you though, i guess it came across that way, very sorry for that!!

you could go all "mommy dearest" on her and strap her down to her bed....better take away the wire hangers too! ;)

(note strong sarcasm in that comment) :)

my point is this....maybe she is sleep walking...that would not be disobedience...maybe try making a cot on the floor, think out of the box....or like i said before....don't sweat the small stuff....

I have an 18 year old who was a sleep walker and who did not sleep in his bed for a whole year....guess what....he does now, no problem...we didn't make an issue out of it....it passed...and there were much bigger battles we had to address later on his life...we surrounded him with love and grace 100% of the time...and i do have to say, he has turned out to be an amazing young man (despite no sleeping in his bed from ages 5 to 6) :)

again at NO TIME was I ever trying to be mean!! sorry you took it in the wrong context. keep your chin up....don't let words taken out of context get to you....i happened on here again tonight to show my husband and tell him how much it reminded me of Ian.

blessings and peace your way!

Carrie Anderson, Muncie

Joanne P said...

When my youngest daughter started doing this on a nightly basis (not getting naked), but coming into our room and wanting to crawl into bed with us in the middle of the night, we started by putting her back in her own bed but she would soon be back in our bedroom and this would go on several times a night...very exhausting. Finally, we said she could come into our room, but she wasn't allowed to get into bed with us. If she wanted to sleep in our room, she had to sleep on the floor beside our bed. I would put out a heavy quilt everynight beside our bed and often we would get up in the morning to find her sleeping there, but eventually she realized that the floor wasn't the most comfortable and that she had a really great bed across the hall and she gave up the habit, especially when Mommy and Daddy wouldn't cave and let her crawl in with us. I know this isn't the exact same thing that is happening with you, but maybe Addie just wants to be close to you, needs that added reassurance that you are there? Especially if Daddy's schedule has changed and really affected her life. That was something we wondered with our daughter.
Anyways, this season too will pass and one day you will look back on this and smile with fond memories...I promise :)

Good luck and hope you can catch up on your sleep at some point!

Carly Thomas said...

Hey Darcy...I can't remember if you have said this before but is she awake when she's getting out of bed...I mean is there dialogue between you and her? The reason I ask us that Chase has had issues with night terrors/sleep walking...he would get out of bed and walk around...sometimes he'd be quiet and we would find him in another place other times he would be talking/crying etc. He would have his eyes open but would be kind of glazed over not focusing. Just throwing it out there...it lasted about a year or so on and off...but now his bedtime issues are that he just doesn't want to stay in his bed! Ugh...it's frustrating!!

Kat said...

I agree with Elle in the top. just keep putting her back in her bed. we actually put a baby gate in jessica's room, becuase i was uncomfortable with actually locking a door. guess its not that different, but it made me feel better :) but jessica wasn't (and still isn't, for that matter) waking up to go potty at night. could you put a little porta potty in her room, next to the night light? and then try the baby gate. we only had to use it a few nights, then we left it right by the door so she knew if she got up we would put it back.....
good luck! parenting is hard work!

(and in a few years you are going to be giggling over these pictures with her!)

Erin said...

We used the child-proofing door handle locks when Emma was getting out of her room. She wasn't potty trained, so we didn't have the problem. If you're worried about that, could you not give her anything to drink before bed so she doesn't have to go? I know it's been going on for a long time, so hopefully it'll be over soon!!

Aabell said...

Call me a bad parent, but I've shut my children's doors at night. They have one of those safety handles on the inside that they can't work easily, but can knock loudly enough on the door for me to hear them!! If kids get out (and disobey), they get into food they shouldn't, climb on things and don't get good sleep otherwise.

They're not traumatized and after a little bit of time - it can be removed and they stay in their rooms during the night. I hate all this judgemental mom/parent stuff. Darcy is a good mom, doing what she feels is best. We hurt each other by being so critical!

And picking your battles to get good sleep... well, I can't really think of a better thing to worry about.

Jewel said...

You speak words from our MOTTTs book...about she's choosing to disobey...trying to find the heart of the problem. Braylon has been coming to our bed in the middle of the night since Jan. Every evening we encourage him to stay there until he sees his door is open (Ben opens it when he gets up to get ready for work @ 5:30) but Bray still comes over before then. We've decided to let it go b/c no harm is done & we think "this too shall pass!" I did not think about it as disobeying...hmmm...maybe I'm going to have to rethink this. I'm really hoping once we move Jaydon in there w/him, then he'll stay b/c he has a companion.

Jewel said...

P.S. Sorry such a long comment. Then I totally forgot to comment about your picture! That 1st pic is totally amazing! I can't believe she can sleep in that position! Oh but she is adorable looking...all snuggly in her pjs! Braylon would sweat in those...he just sleeps in his underwear. There I go again, typing another long comment!

darcy said...

Carrie -

No harm taken! Just wanted to explain the "heart" issues a little further. =) I'm glad you came back and explained yourself a little further too!

And good to know that *hopefully* she won't be doing this when she's 18! When your are in it you sure wonder when it's it's gunna end, tho.. that's for sure!

Have a great one!
Darcy