tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19729485.post4877486943905541240..comments2023-09-23T10:06:23.470-05:00Comments on more left unseen: Questions Answered Part 3.5Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19729485.post-44669690524441211842010-03-17T12:54:42.077-05:002010-03-17T12:54:42.077-05:00critics of babywise.....
Critics include, for exa...critics of babywise.....<br /><br />Critics include, for example, Dr. T. Berry Brazelton, MD, FAAP, Professor Emeritas, Harvard Medical School, developer of the Neonatal Behavioral Assessment Scale[3]; Richard Ferber, MD, Director, Center for Pediatric Sleep Disorders at Children's Hospital in Boston [4]; and Arnold Tanis, MD, FAAP, Past President, Florida Chapter of the American Academy of Pediatrics.[5]Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19729485.post-52247212396945634992010-03-03T08:43:05.810-06:002010-03-03T08:43:05.810-06:00So apparently I need to be worried about SO MUCH M...So apparently I need to be worried about SO MUCH MORE than trying to stop my own vomiting?! ;) You ROCK Darce, at all things you do, don't ever let anyone suggest differently. Also, every time I "freak" out about if I'll do the right thing 100% of the time as a parent I just remember how my parents were born in the 50's and me in the 70's when we didn't have all of these "expert" opinions/how to's and I'm somehow still here living and breathing (and reproducing for that matter!)Niki Klinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11959420941638161362noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19729485.post-15802133500578939312010-03-02T08:49:14.038-06:002010-03-02T08:49:14.038-06:00Thanks so much for your post!! I started out with ...Thanks so much for your post!! I started out with Babywise from day one- mostly because your sister insisted that it was the greatest and I should look into it. I followed it faithfully for about 2 or 3 months- then I got lost somewhere!!! I think it was at Christmas when Elise got her ear infection and was really sick (for almost 2 weeks) with an awful cold. I started rocking her at night. She and I both got used to it-and she also started getting me up in the middle of the night for a feeding...<br /><br />Anyway- I re-read Babywise this past weekend and I'm getting things back on track!! Today is DAY 2 of crying it out- and Elise is already figuring it out... I just put her down a little while ago for her morning nap and 8 minutes later she's already settled down (much better than yesterday). And- last night she fussed around 2:00, but after 10 minutes went back to sleep without me even going in!<br /><br />Thanks to you and Denise for sharing your stories and encouragement. I love being a mom and are thankful for any help I can get along the way!!!!!JAMES & SUSANhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07761306736111359957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19729485.post-52585861390869596912010-02-27T12:57:03.617-06:002010-02-27T12:57:03.617-06:00you are brave for posting darcy- and i wanted to a...you are brave for posting darcy- and i wanted to also say thank you for making it clear that it works for your family. i don't care what a family does at home (we also did CIO, Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Baby/Child) but I DO care when they try to push their views on others!<br /><br />anywho, thanks for sharing darcy!Kathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13825499605116840387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19729485.post-27428837449937162652010-02-27T11:14:09.567-06:002010-02-27T11:14:09.567-06:00Babywise worked for me too. I'm so happy I did...Babywise worked for me too. I'm so happy I did it. Thanks for sharing. :)beachy keen girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00956223234783016111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19729485.post-16199348994018284842010-02-26T22:26:45.867-06:002010-02-26T22:26:45.867-06:00I will sign my name to this. I am happy someone s...I will sign my name to this. I am happy someone said something different. I have not read but been told by our developmental pediatric specialist that Crying it out is not the way to go. She stated the same thing that Annonymous said above. I also don't think that she was pointing fingers at anyone in particular that they were neglecting their children. I know for a fact that Darcy does not. She is very aware of her children's needs. Our developmental pediatrician has given us other options. I agree whole heartedly though that Darcy believes that you have to choose what works for your family and she wouldn't push her views on anyone. So I am not sure this is the place to wage our wars. I just usually agree to disagree. <br /><br />I am trying the method with my daughter who has been on a schedule since birth however has still refused to sleep longer than 20-30 minutes twice a day for naps. She is nine months old. She however has been an excellent night time sleeper since 5/6 months. I have a two year old as well with medical issues and he has always been a good napper, sleeps as well as he is going to due to his medical issues at night. there is no part of me anymore that thinks it is wrong of me to get up in the middle of the night when his sweet little voice asks for a drink. Time is precious...there will be many years that our children will want very little to with us. I have decided that I am choosing to cherish this time. We went in with him and lost sleep while he was young, and it has not taught him a habit. He sleeps through the night now. It is not easy to sacrifice sleep. But I think sacrificing for our children and their needs is something that we are called to do as parents. <br /><br />Darcy thanks for sharing your methods and taking the time to put yourself out there on a very touchy subject. I appreciate your honesty and your respect for those that have other opinions. I also thank you for the time you have put in to helping me come up with ideas to get Avenlea to nap.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12284374396023403489noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19729485.post-51016836143611240082010-02-26T20:54:17.017-06:002010-02-26T20:54:17.017-06:00Meant to put this in my above post. If you happen ...Meant to put this in my above post. If you happen to be looking for sleep help (what new parent isn't!?) but aren't sure about cry it out there are other options.<br /><br />The Happiest Baby on the Block is a great book for the littles, and The No Cry Sleep Solution is good for birth to toddler years.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19729485.post-86758825053137109772010-02-26T20:07:13.269-06:002010-02-26T20:07:13.269-06:00Okay, "anonymous" I couldn't let you...Okay, "anonymous" I couldn't let your comments go without chiming in...AND I'm even willing to sign my name...:)<br />There are GOBS of misinformation about the Ezzo's and babywise out there. In fact, my two biggest pieces of advice to new moms are 1. use babywise, and 2. Don't tell anyone you use babywise. As I like to say, it brings the "crazies" out. And by "crazies" I mean the people who are hysterically against it and yet have never used it, have never known anyone that used it, etc. And by using "it," I mean the principles of babywise-the cornerstones of which are feeding your baby on a schedule and letting your baby learn how to fall asleep on his/her own. The AAP does not speak out against either of those. In fact, feeding a baby on the schedule suggested by the Ezzo's in babywise is WELL within the recommended guidelines of the AAP. No baby has died because a mom fed every two and a half to three hours and let him/her cry himself/herself to sleep. It is no joke. And hysterically calling out a program I would guess you have no personal experience with is not a joke either. I fed all four of my kids on a schedule and my pediatrician was well aware of it and supported it. The principles of babywise could certainly be misused, as could the principles of anything. Better education of moms would help, not lactation consultants scaring moms off of the idea, like mine always tried to do. Using the principles of babywise gave me confidence as I learned to discern cries and was able to meet different needs with different solutions...much better IMO than offering a feeding with every cry. As far as learning to fall asleep on their own, we were very thankful for that as well. It allowed us to be rested sooner than we may have otherwise. If waiting many months (or often years) to have a good night of sleep alone in your bed with your husband is fine for another family, great! That was not what we chose to do. And a mom who lets her baby cry it out is not NOT responding to the baby's need. She is choosing to give her baby a very valuable skill to self soothe. One that the parents, any other care givers and the well-rested baby herself will appreciate. To suggest that letting a baby cry it out is shirking the duties of parenthood is mean-spirited and foolish. It is a different choice in parenting than you chose to make, but a well-thought out one that Darcy believes in just as much as you believe in yours. Darcy's children and my children do not trust us any less because they cried themselves to sleep when they were infants. As babies, they were just as crazy about their mommas as I'm sure your daughter is about you. All that to say, regardless of what you may find on the internet or hear from a lactation consultant or read in an "anonymous comment" helping regulate your baby's feeding with a schedule and helping your baby learn how to put himself/herself to sleep by crying it out is not risky or dangerous. In fact, for our family, it was a giant blessing. One we were happy to repeat four times. Darcy is brave for putting herself out there by sharing what she did in response to genuine questions, especially knowing that she was likely to get attacked or ridiculed. <br />Signed,<br />Deborah Marie Hiler :)DHilerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00362047664199003448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19729485.post-78920730666744207822010-02-26T17:46:02.949-06:002010-02-26T17:46:02.949-06:00Darcy, I'm sure you don't want to wage a m...Darcy, I'm sure you don't want to wage a mommy war, but Anonymous, if you must chime in and criticize, have the courage to use your name. It's very hard to put any stock in a critic who is not brave enough to be identified by their opinions. Second, babies that are dying from babywise have bigger problems than sleep issues...but access to healthcare and education are another issue for another blog. Third, Darcy hardly said that babywise was the only way to have a normal baby...quite the opposite as a matter of fact. Darcy, you are to be commended for being an loving, intentional, disciplined parent. I admire your transparency and find your well-rested children to look quite healthy and happy.Amynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19729485.post-61729352963457619672010-02-26T16:28:08.930-06:002010-02-26T16:28:08.930-06:00I think you are brave to post this! I think that ...I think you are brave to post this! I think that cio has got to be one of the most controversial parenting things out there. <br /><br />I am also a firm believer in babywise and schedules. All three of my kiddos were/are excellent sleepers and nappers, and not a one of them starved or is neglected in any way, shape, or form. :) I started mine with a good 2.5-3 hour feeding schedule from the start and I believe it made a world of difference for us. I feel for people who are up all night with kids for so long or complain that their babies won't nap for more than 15 minutes, because it doesn't have to be that way. I firmly believe that just like anything, we teach our kids to sleep. Whether you are rocking to seep or putting them down awake, you are teaching them. <br /><br />I used to get all passionate and worked up about this, but I have definitely mellowed some after having 3 kids. Every family is different, every child is different, and it's not up to me to decide if someone is doing things the "wrong" way. I just know for my family a schedule, consistency, and yes, even crying it out worked wonders.<br /><br />Just wanted to say kudos to you for not being scared to talk about your opinion on this!meganhttp://www.mookarama.com/megannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19729485.post-85749718100107150142010-02-26T15:22:07.956-06:002010-02-26T15:22:07.956-06:00I am a believer in the crying out method also...bu...I am a believer in the crying out method also...but I learned my thru the book "Baby Whisperer!" Great book to help your baby get on a schedule. A schedule & consistency is the KEY!!! Thanx for sharing, Darcy!Jewelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05014852437357524084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19729485.post-90154064744137722002010-02-26T15:18:41.089-06:002010-02-26T15:18:41.089-06:00Can't let this go with out chiming in. Here i...Can't let this go with out chiming in. Here is a link that talk a little more about Ezzo and Babywise. http://www.ezzo.info/<br /><br />Just want to let the mamas know who are reading this that the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) has actually spoken out against Mr. Ezzo and his rigid scheduling of young infants. Babies have actually DIED of malnutrition and failure to thrive. No joke. <br /><br />So please, think about this long and hard before you thing that cry it out is the only way to have "normal baby". I am a mother of one who has always responded to her child's needs no matter the time of day or night. Said child now sleeps 12 wonderful hours at night and takes a 2 hour nap. No CIO needed. Yes there were long days and nights and sleep deprivation on my part. But you know what? I survived. So did my child. And I can rest easy knowing that she trusts me implicitly care for her every need. Notice I said need, not want. Responding and caring for a crying infant is not catering or spoiling. It's called parenthood. <br /><br />Ok. I will stop now before say something I might regret. :PAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19729485.post-62527060826207331252010-02-26T14:56:55.165-06:002010-02-26T14:56:55.165-06:00love baby wise. we did it with our first born. s...love baby wise. we did it with our first born. she is a great sleeper! i slacked off with our second and regret it so much. i started later and i can tell a big difference, but we're getting there. this is quite a controversial topic which is sad. i think it is a choice for each family and the choice should be respected by all. i have dear friends who would never dream of letting their baby cry it out and the child still sleeps with them and all. this is not for me but it works for them. it is hard when you feel like you just aren't sure what you are doing. haha! isn't motherhood so like that? thanks for sharing!Daisy Pathhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07596276079962680297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19729485.post-67977598892982397402010-02-26T14:52:33.958-06:002010-02-26T14:52:33.958-06:00Hey Darcy! Thanks for your post! My hubby and I lo...Hey Darcy! Thanks for your post! My hubby and I love baby wise! We have used it for both of our kids! It definitely saved my sanity!<br /><br />I just wanted to expand on what you said at the end about telling when something was off. For those that don't know, you are basically putting your baby on a clock. You quickly learn what their cries mean, tired, hungry, upset. As they get more accustomed to the schedule, you will see that they cry at the same time every day. Eventually they figure out that, "mommy will feed me," or "I will get a nap today," and they will begin to cry less and be happier. They learn to completely trust in you and in that trust they are at peace! Just because they cry, does not mean that you are being mean. Since they are babies, they can only cry, think about it if they were 3 years old and verbally saying, "I DON"T WANT TO NAP!!" What would you tell that 3 year old? "Too bad, I know what is best and you need a nap!" If thinking about it like that, that they are arguing with you, it may make it easier for you. The key is, "Mommy and Daddy are going to win" and consistency. Like Darcy said, it does help you tell when they are crying for a "weird" reason. That really helps you learn what they want! <br /><br />Also, my babies were both belly sleepers because they were also thumb suckers and couldn't find their thumbs otherwise. My solution to the worry was this prayer that I still pray, "Father protect them, because I can't." So far, He has answered that prayer every time! They would flip over, but eventually they learned to deal and just fell asleep the way they were. <br /><br />Sorry my comment is so long! :-) Thanks for posting Darcy! <br />~Katie Hilerktladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16376641924117605901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19729485.post-72627564676520145412010-02-26T14:36:54.045-06:002010-02-26T14:36:54.045-06:00if you're interested in hearing more about bab...if you're interested in hearing more about babywise, i found this blog of a babywise mom....she is excellent!<br /><br />http://babywisemom.blogspot.com/<br /><br />hope that helps someone!Kelseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03607327052671744540noreply@blogger.com