JAMES & SUSAN said...
I have Elise on a pretty good schedule right now too- but I've been giving in sometimes at night and going in and rocking her. She's started to roll over on her belly in the middle of the night and it FREAKS ME OUT!!!!!
I can usually tell when she flips over to her belly because she cries differently. Did you ever have this problem? Did you still just the let the girls cry it out or did you go in and flip them over??
Could you talk a little bit more on the crying method. At what age did you do that? How long did you let them cry?
I am a Babywise momma. I know this book/method has been given a lot of grief throughout the years. ETA: Kelsey gave me a Babywise blog. Holy cow.. good stuff on there!!!
My sister and I have been pregnant at the same time with both our pregnancies and she actually read the book with the first set of pregnancies and told me I was going to do Babywise when Adie and I came to visit her when Adie was 6 weeks old. =) She's a great sister like that. I had a horrible milk supply and fed her too often, Adie was super colicky, didn't take good naps and slept horribly at night. So Aunt Denise Babywise boot-camp got us on the right track. With Adie I started the regimin and "crying it out" at 6 weeks. Then before Joya came I re-read the book and decided to implement the schedule starting at 2 weeks. Joya caught on MUCH quicker than Adie did. MUCH.
Here's the gist of it...
*Newborn-6 month(ish) babies eat every 2 1/2 to 3 hours. No snacking, no nursing to put them to bed, if they start crying you don't automatically put a boob in their mouth, amen.
*The pattern of the schedule goes,
wake-time (do EVERYTHING you can to keep them awake during this time)
(Repeat until the last feeding of the night. Then they go directly to bed with no wake-time.)
HERE IS THE CRYING IT OUT PART:
*Nap-time/bedtime consists of you putting them down in their bed and walking out of the room. (And the book recommends always napping your babies in their cribs. Consistancy is key.) Pretty sure they will cry. =) In fact, I guarentee they will cry and cry hard. If they are still crying in 15 minutes, you go in, pick them up, soothe them and soon after they are soothed in your arms you put them back into their crib. The will probably scream when you put them back in their crib. Go in every 15 minutes until they are asleep.
There's other things that go along with crying it out like the "45 minute intruder". It is SO WEIRD. My sister and I have babies the same age and our kids all went through the 45 minute intruder at like 4 months and 6 months. It was a week or two long that the kids would wake up from a nap at 45 minutes on the dot and be screaming. I would go in, pat them on the back and walk out of the room. I would wait the 15 minutes if they were still crying and pat them again. If they exceeded 20-25 minutes then I would go in and get them. But MOST OF THE TIME they would fall back to sleep after a few minutes of crying. It's the weirdest thing but I bet your kids will do the same thing at some point!
I've had a lot of friends tell me that that they tried the whole crying it out with their kids and they screamed for an hour and beyond.. yep, mine did that too. It is SUPER hard to hear your baby cry (strike that, SCREAM) but it really pays off in the end. It will keep getting better and better. My girls are amazing nappers and great sleepers at night. As with most parenting things, it's all about consistancy. If you only cry it out for one nap a day and the other naps you give in and rock them, it's sending a mixed message. The book reminds us as parents that we are in charge and dictate when our kids sleep. It might be harsh but now when I say "no" to my 2 year old I know she knows I mean it. Sleeping is a learned process for most babies... they have to be taught. Maybe you are a lucky mom and your baby figured out napping and sleeping through the night on his/her own! LUCKY DUCK! My girls didn't come knowing how to sleep so this is how I taught them. Joya (10 months) still takes a few minutes to cry before she goes down for a nap or bedtime. I think Adie was close to a year old before she went straight to sleep and didn't fuss before nap time.
Now, to answer Susan's question about Elise (5 months) rolling to her belly, my girls have both been belly sleepers so I hear ya about freaking out!
Sidenote: we use an amazing monitor that I strongly recommend. Bebe Sounds Angel Care Monitor has given us a ton of peace of mind. It monitors your babies breathing and movement and if your baby doesn't move or breath in 15 seconds then an alarm goes off.
Since my girls were belly sleepers, I had the opposite problem as you had! They would cry bloody murder if they flipped to their backs! I would go in and flip them and then start the crying out process. I would wait 15 minutes to go back in and flip them again if they'd flipped a second time. Most of the time they'd figure out how to flip back to their belly's. Usually it only lasted for a week or two until they figured out that they really prefered to sleep on their belly so they wouldn't flip to their backs anymore. Hang in there.. I think she'll grow out of it soon!
I know the "crying it out" method is hard core. It's not for everyone but we've had extreme sucess with it. I might get some backlash about this very structured method but I also know my kids. I could tell when something is "off" and they are teething and just need some loving in the middle of the night so yeah, I try to be loving and compassionate with all this too.
Discern what is right for your family. This just happens to be right for ours!